I’m super excited to have D. R. Kelly as the first Guest Writer here on What Direction. After reading her story, you’ll know what a gift it is and what a beautiful heart she has. Enjoy!
Marriage is a beautiful gift. It is a relationship that can be full of growth, wisdom, and understanding. We make vows to go through life’s ups and downs with a person that has captured our hearts, and we begin a new journey with joy and anticipation. Then something odd happens not long after the “I do’s”. Life in all its complicated glory is now more visible as our rose-tinted expectations begin to slowly fade. Life happens and distractions come. Distractions come, and stress builds. Stress builds, and relationships suffer. Relationships suffer, and the marriage is now in jeopardy of becoming the very opposite of what is intended to be. This may or may not be your story, but it is my story.
Following our wedding and instantly becoming a military family, early signs of problems grew into bigger and emotionally damaging ones. For years, depression was my vice and I hopelessly settled into an existence that was never meant for me. It wasn’t until five years later that I had the most life changing experience ever. In tears, I cried out to this Person that I had been reading about in my devotional. He seemed unreal, but intriguing all at the same time. The stories I read spoke about peace, freedom, forgiveness, and love, and I wanted what they experienced. That night I accepted Jesus Christ into my heart as my Lord and Savior. After that night I could not get enough of His Word. I read every day, and all throughout the day. This book, no, this Bible, it had so many promises. I kept asking myself, “Are all these promises really for me, too?”
During this same period, there was a shift in my marriage. It seemed the closer I grew to God, the further away my husband would pull from me. I felt he wanted me to choose, and I knew that I wouldn’t. I was already God’s, and the more He showed me, the more I knew that I never wanted to go back to the darkness that I existed in for so long before. This was not pleasing to my husband. His response to my new found relationship with the Lord was filled with daily verbal abuse, control, refusing to let me work, leaving me home with our newborn son while he went out to drink and do drugs, and infidelity. I found myself torn many nights between my emotions and God’s truth. I never understood what I had done to deserve treatment so cruel, especially from my best friend, the one I was ready to take on the whole world with. This was supposed to be our greatest journey, and it was in ruins.
Read Part 2 of Loving Beyond All Reason HERE
D.R. Kelly is a Board Certified Christian Life Coach, based in Loganville, Georgia. She has degrees in Biblical Counseling from Luther Rice University, and Human Services Counseling in Marriage and Family from Liberty University. She is a member of the International Christian Coach Association (ICCA). As a proud and devoted mother to her teenage son, she not only mentors young adults, but is also a member of her local church where she actively serves as a small group leader to lift and encourage middle and high school students. Whether through creative lettering, writing, or Christian life coaching, she is fully committed to her calling in walking alongside and edifying the lives of others. Currently, she is writing her first Christian devotional, Encouraged Growth: A 40 Day Devotional of Encouragement and Prayers, set to be published in Spring 2017. For more information about D.R. Kelly, she can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org .